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You have to have a Dream March 26, 2013

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“You have to have a dream so you can get up in the morning.” – Billy Wilder

Are you a morning person or are you one of the below ?

 

Hate*Mornings

 

I LOVE mornings ! You could say that I’m a morning person ! If I wake up early, my day goes off pretty well. 🙂 Sure, I do have days where you have to drag me out of bed at 12 PM, but then who doesn’t love sleep, right ? 😛

Here are the top 5 reason I love mornings (and waking up early):

1. I.ME.MYSELF.

In today’s busy and technology infested world, there isn’t a time of day (or night) when people aren’t calling / mailing / texting you (That’s probably why I sleep with my phone on Airplane Mode). I’m pretty sure not too many people would go to the pains of waking up at 6 AM to speak to you !

Basically, it’s a time when I can just be with myself, relax and ponder.

Solitude

 

2. OUTDOORS.FRESH AIR.EXERCISE.

Jogging is my favorite form of exercise. Plug in you headphones, listen to the music you love, and feel the fresh air as you jog / run / walk with the sun rising along with you. Heavenly it is, believe me !

Jogging

 

3. PRAYER. PEACE. SERENITY.

I try my best to pray five times a day, but the peace and serenity I get from my morning prayers is unbeatable. It makes me calm and prepares me for all the challenges I have to face in the day.

Morning Prayer

 

4. LIST. PRIORITIZE. PLAN. 

An extra 5-10 minutes in the morning are ideal to plan the day that lies ahead. I like to think of all that I have to get done, from the most exciting to the most boring tasks of the day. Then, I prioritize them and plan how to go about accomplishing them. Just knowing what you have to get done in the day gives you a head-start and makes it even easier.

to do list

 

5. HEALTHY.YUMMY.BREAKFAST.

Early mornings will automatically make you hungrier at an earlier time, and I love taking out time to fix myself a delicious yet healthy breakfast. Having the time to enjoy your breakfast rather than stuffing it down your throat really makes a difference !

Healthy-Breakfast-Ideas

 

If you’re inspired and want to wake up early now, here are some tips for you ! 🙂

How to Wake up EARLY

 

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And you think you’re really ALIVE ? March 18, 2013

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So, here’s how it goes. I’m 25, happily married a month ago, been working for more than 3 years and just living my life. Perfect, you’d say, right ?

But, the story’s a bit different from nearby. I have a job, YES. I don’t hate my job, YES. I’m grateful I have work to go to everyday and a paycheck that comes around every month, YES. But, is this what I REALLY want ?

I read The Four Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferris, and I loved how he said that the opposite of happiness isn’t being sad, it’s being bored. Because, till you’re not really EXCITED about what you do, you can’t be 100% HAPPY !

I think the problem is that I have dreams, but I’m not too sure of them myself. If someone asked me today, what exactly I see myself doing, I’d probably be a bunch of excuses and “ifs” and “buts”. Point being, I don’t really know what I want myself. Whose fault? Mine, of course.

I know that what I’m doing is not what I want to be doing my whole life, and I have a vague idea of I want to be doing, but I’m still not 100% clear of what it is.

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So, five steps I’m taking to work on that(and you can do as well if you’re sailing in the same boat):

1. DREAM

Dreams are free, they don’t cost anything except your imagination. It is only when you have dreams that you can achieve them. They’re the one thing that can keep you alive, no matter how messed up things around you are !

2. VISUALIZE YOUR DREAMS

You have a dream? Great! Visualize what you want, be clear. If you yourself are not sure of what you want, you’ll never get there !

3. BELIEVE

Believe in yourself ! We are at times our worst critics and tend to bring ourselves down. Boost your confidence by being your own support.

4. LISTEN TO EVERYONE, BUT BE THE JUDGE

Socialize with people, especially positive ones! Lend an ear to what others have to say, but at the end of the day, you are the best judge of what works for you.

Listen, filter, and apply !

5. GRATITUDE & JOY

Look around yourself, and be happy for the small and big gifts LIFE has given you !

Express gratitude, feel it in yourself !

Be happy and spread joys to others around you as well ! 🙂

 

THE BEST IN ME ! March 8, 2013

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I PROMISE MYSELF
To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worth while in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the BEST, to work only for the BEST
and to expect only the BEST.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of
others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the
greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a SMILE
to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself that I
have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud word, but in great deeds.
To LIVE in the faith that the whole world is on my side,
so long as I AM TRUE TO THE BEST THAT IS IN ME !
–Christian D. Larson
 

Too Late to Say Goodbye November 7, 2012

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They stood watching each other from a distance, neither knowing how to bridge the distance between them. Each action would take them closer to the final step, they both hesitated, neither wanting to be the first one.

She closed her eyes and silently prayed she would have the strength to hold back her tears. The winter breeze fluttered through her hair, he held back from going over and tucking them behind her ears. It was going to be harder than he’d thought. Just the sight of her made his resolve weaker but he knew he couldn’t risk that anymore. It was decided and had to be done.

She shivered against the cold wind, and pulled her white fur overcoat closer to her body. Today, I have to be strong, she thought. Gathering herself together, she took took a deep breath and moved forward. Their eyes met as he looked up at her, and she quickly looked away, not wanting him to see the pain she was trying so hard to hide.

As she walked towards him, he took a step forward. He held out his arms as she reached him, embracing her close to himself. She felt at home in his arms, his body seemed natural next to hers. She could smell his intoxicating perfume, the smell that signified “him”. She tried her best to stay composed, but her emotions finally overtook her. The tears started to stream down her cheek, soaking his sweater where she rested her head. It wasn’t going to be easy. She’d known that all along, but she’d thought she would be stronger than this. The memories started to flood her mind, all the happy moments, the smiles and laughter, the love between them, and everything they’d shared.

He held her face in his hands and looked down at her, wiping away the tears that stained her cheeks. It’s going to be okay, he said to her. He didn’t sound convinced himself, she could see the anguish in his eyes, the hurt he was trying to hide. She nodded in acceptance. This was it. It was finally over. It was time to say goodbye.

As he let her go, she felt her entire world move away with him. What was she going to do? How would she survive another day? But, she smiled at him. She had to be strong. For both of them. He kissed her on the forehead, their last kiss, their last touch. He walked back towards his car, his steps slow and heavy. As he got into the car, he looked back at her. She kept watching, trying to memorize his face, his deep brown eyes,  his perfect smile, the small stubble on his chin.

The car engine sputtered to life, interrupting her thoughts. As he drove away from her, she felt something inside her die. Tears flooded her eyes, she felt weak in the knees. As his car faded into the distance, she whispered to herself, it’s too late to say goodbye.

 

Is it as easy to “UNFRIEND” someone in Real Life ? October 11, 2012

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Being mad at people who were once an important irreplaceable part of your life isn’t easy. I’m not the types who gets angry at people too easily, I’m always looking at the brighter side and taking it for granted that he/she might as well be in a situation that I don’t know of.

But, sometimes, it hurts to know that someone you care so deeply for doesn’t even care for your existence!

Is a phone call or message or dropping by someone’s place so difficult in this technology infested age?

It really saddens me and hurts me immensely that I can’t share my joy with someone because they don’t have the time to pick up a call. I want you to be a part of my life, I miss the days when I would talk to you about “EVERYTHING” !

Yes, I am angry!

Yes, I am not taking your calls nor replying to your texts!

It’s because I’ve crossed my threshold of understanding.

But, somehow, even if I think of you today, I have a thousand things to thank you for !

For being my friend when I was all alone, for standing by me no matter what, for being a partner in all my crazy ideas, for being an extension of me and loving me unconditionally !

Because beneath this show of anger, it’s still all the same.

You were, are and will always be the same to me – you’re too precious  to lose !

And as Whitney Houston rightly said, “I will ALWAYS love you !”

NOTE:

This blog entry may seem to be a very normal post, but it wasn’t easy. I rarely express emotions, I have a habit of bottling emotions inside myself, and struggling alone with them.

This is an attempt to open up and let the people who matter to me know what I’m feeling !

 

Faith. Remembrance. Peace. September 18, 2012

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Dear God,

Hi! How are you doing this morning? I’m sure you have your hands full, what with 5 babies coming into the world every second, changing day to night and night to day all over the world (I’m amazed at your precision, what App do use to be so perfectly on time?), giving us snow, rain, sun, I guess the list just goes on and on!

Well, didn’t mean to bother you too much. I just had something to share with you. You know how whenever I”m sad, I cry and say: “GOD, why did this have to happen to me?”, or when I’m angry, I say: “I swear to GOD, I wont let go of the *******!”, or when I need something, I say: “GOD, please help me get this!”. You’re probably thinking, here she goes again with her ranting. But, guess what? TODAY is a bit different. I’m in a good mood today! ( Surprise? 🙂 ) And, I had to just write to you to say: “Wow, you’ve done an amazing job of making today so good for me!” Thank you for the beautiful world around me, the great friends, all the love and understanding, well, even the wonderful work and office ( Did I hear you cough right there? ), for giving me good health and vitality and for making me so happy. A big, gigantic THANK YOU for making my life worth living! A big THANK YOU for giving me hope and patience, for giving me a new beginning every morning, to start off right where I left yesterday!

I guess the world isn’t as bad as we make it out to be, you just need to tweak the strings a bit, put a few drops of oil in the right places, and boy, does life go into the highest gear in seconds! So, hey, thank you for showing me the brighter side of my life this beautiful morning!

And since, I’m so positive already, thanks for getting me Freshly Pressed too! I know you’re with me on this one!

Yours,

Juveria

 

Book Review: WELL BEING The Five Essential Elements May 25, 2012

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So, this blog post is dedicated to all my lazy(non-reading) friends, who tell me to make life easy for them by summarizing the books I read. Seriously, how can anyone not love books ? 😦

This amazing book by Tom Rath and Jim Harter explores the five basic aspects of well being and how to have a better well being in general.

Instead of writing an elaborate overview, I thought I’d pick up the most interesting points.

CAREER WELL BEING

Do you like what you do each day?

This question pretty much summarizes the entire thing. Your career is rated the highest because that’s where you’re spending around 70% of your waking day, and automatically, your career wellbeing will reflect in the other aspects of your wellbeing.

  1. Our well being actually recovers more rapidly from the death of a spouse than it does from a sustained period of unemployment !
  2. A higher level of engagement at work translates into a higher career well being.
  3. A high career well being is not dependent on a fat pay check at the end of the month, it is more closely linked to finding something that you love to do, and doing that ever day !

SOCIAL WELL BEING

The people around us are directly linked to our social well being, be it friends, family, colleagues,etc. Emotions spread easily from one person to another. Our moods are synchronized with the people around us, so our emotions influence each other without us even knowing it.

  1. Not only our direct network, but our indirect network also influences our social well being.For example, if a friend of your direct associates is happy, the chances of you being happy increase by 10%. (the friend’s chances increase by a good 15%) !
  2. Our health habits, be it eating healthy/junk food, working out, etc. are also influenced the people around us. Want to become healthier and more fit? Surround yourself with healthy and physically active people, simple !
  3. Each hour of social activity decreases the odds of having a bad day. Also, the rate of decline in memory was seen to be half in people who were more socially active.  

FINANCIAL WELL BEING

Financial well being is not about the amount of money you make, figures don’t play such an important role here. People with thriving financial well being just know how to use their money better, be it investing or saving it for experiences that gives them a higher well being.

  1. How we spend money is more important in terms of well being than how much we spend. Money spent on others or on experiences always gives a higher level of happiness than spending on oneself.
  2. The perception that you have more than enough money to do what you want to do has THREE times the impact of your income alone on overall well being !
  3. When a wealth accumulation strategy bothers you and gives you stress, it’s not worth it ! Managing your finances means you should be able to do what you want when you want to do it !

PHYSICAL WELL BEING

  1. Genes that make you prone to certain diseases and ailments can be suppressed to a certain extent.
  2. What we eat right now determines what we eat later. Eating junk food or high level of carbohydrates gives false hunger signals, which ends up eating all the wrong things at the wrong time.
  3. Exercise is much more efficient at eliminating fatigue than prescription drugs used for this purpose.
  4. Sleep is you daily RESET button. But, getting too less(5-6) or too much(9-10) hours of sleep will have higher chances of weight gain, and lower physical well being. (The ideal time to sleep is 7-8 hours)

COMMUNITY WELL BEING

This is the differentiator between a good life and a great life. Although clean water and good roads may not seem to be such an important factor in well being, the absence of these basics will certainly lower your overall well being.

  1. To live in a good community is not enough, the idea is to go out and interact with people and have a sense of community bonding.
  2. A study proved that blood donors experienced an elevated mood right before and after donating blood. The idea of giving something back to your community will increase your well being, be it financial, time, or whatever you choose.

A definite read, you can order this book online on Amazon as well ! 🙂